1. When others are going through difficult times, try not to use our own interpretation to understand their situations. What they need may only be our pair of ears.
2. When others are sharing their difficulties, our best responses to them maybe our focused minds.
3. Empathy is the ability to stand in others’ shoes, experience how they may feel and to understand and accept their thoughts.
4. When others take off their coats and let us see their naked and vulnerable selves, please treasure and cherish them.
5. We may easily add “haloes” to other people’s difficulties. But the light from the haloes may turn into sharp knives and hurt others.
6. Don’t try to weigh others’ difficulties on a scale because difficulties just cannot be weighted.
7. Please be prepared when others reviewed their dark sides to you or described the helplessness they felt when they fell into dark valleys, because that might trigger the sorrows and resentments hidden inside us.
8. We may not fully understand other people’s stories, but we can be grateful of their openness and trust in us.
9. It is good that we can step into other people’s shoes and feel their difficulties. However please remember they are “other people’s shoes”.
10. Our Lord has incarnated and lived amongst us. He can fully understand our sorrows because He has been through sorrows himself. And because of love, He has willingly come down from the throne and becomes the saviour and dear friend of sinners.
(Written by Shirley Loo, translated by Helen Pang. Readers are welcomed to share this post in Facebook. If you would like to use this article in publications, please kindly apply for the copyright by sending email to fdf@familyfoundationhk.com )
有關同理的十個看法
1. 在別人難過的時候，盡量不用自己的理解來詮釋別人的處境，因為對方需要的，可能只是一雙聆聽的耳朵。
2. 當別人在訴說苦況時，我們專注與關愛的眼神，就是最好的回應。
3. 同理是站在對方的位置，體會對方的心情，明白並接納對方的想法。
4. 當別人把外衣脫下，看到對方赤裸與脆弱的那面，請珍而重之對待。
5. 我們很容易將對方的苦情帶上一個「光環」，只是那光芒很多時候變成刺傷對方的利刃。
6. 別把彼此的苦難放在天秤上秤，因為苦難不是用來秤的。
7. 請有心理準備，當聽到別人在揭示內心幽暗不堪的自己，述說墮進陷阱幽谷時的不忿無助時，也會撩起咱們內心那久被埋藏的新愁舊怨。
8. 聽完別人的訴說，我們不一定全都明白，但卻可以感謝對方坦誠交付，及對我們的信任。
9. 穿上別人的鞋子感覺別人的難受是好，但請記得那到底是「別人的鞋子」。
10. 主耶穌所經歷的苦難，也唯有道成肉身住在我們中間的祂全然明白我們的困苦，而且因為愛，祂甘願從寶座上走下來，成為拯救罪人的救主，也是罪人的知心友。
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