今天晚上在公公婆婆晚飯後回到家裡，媽媽如常打點盧雋洗澡，然後自己照顧Wonka吃飯吃藥如廁等等。

盧雋在浴室門外看著忙碌的媽媽，說：「媽咪你真係好辛苦。」

其實媽媽只要見到盧雋身體健康，成日都開開心心，Wonka又快D好番曬，咁媽咪就唔覺得辛苦啦。

打網球

昨天早上盧雋在Danielle家，Danielle扮起網球教練，跟幾個孩子扮上網球班。

回家後，盧雋仍然很興奮，告訴媽媽自己打網球好叻，連Danielle小教練也稱讚他。於是便要求跟Danielle一起學網球了。

我們坐言起行，在緊接著的星期二早上，便開始到調景嶺室內運動場學網球。在這個場地的好處是有室內遊戲室、室外遊樂場及圖書館。於是我們九點半到遊戲室玩半個鐘，學完網球再到圖書館借書，成就了節目豐富的星期二早上。

盧雋的運動神經很好，任何運動都很快學會。不過往往學會以後，便停了下來。盧雋要記得對於喜歡的事，學會以後，嘗試突破自己，才會進步。

10 Views on Empathy

1. When others are going through difficult times, try not to use our own interpretation to understand their situations. What they need may only be our pair of ears.

2. When others are sharing their difficulties, our best responses to them maybe our focused minds.

3. Empathy is the ability to stand in others’ shoes, experience how they may feel and to understand and accept their thoughts.

4. When others take off their coats and let us see their naked and vulnerable selves, please treasure and cherish them.

5. We may easily add “haloes” to other people’s difficulties. But the light from the haloes may turn into sharp knives and hurt others.

6. Don’t try to weigh others’ difficulties on a scale because difficulties just cannot be weighted.

7. Please be prepared when others reviewed their dark sides to you or described the helplessness they felt when they fell into dark valleys, because that might trigger the sorrows and resentments hidden inside us.

8. We may not fully understand other people’s stories, but we can be grateful of their openness and trust in us.

9. It is good that we can step into other people’s shoes and feel their difficulties. However please remember they are “other people’s shoes”.

10. Our Lord has incarnated and lived amongst us. He can fully understand our sorrows because He has been through sorrows himself. And because of love, He has willingly come down from the throne and becomes the saviour and dear friend of sinners.

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有關同理的十個看法

1. 在別人難過的時候，盡量不用自己的理解來詮釋別人的處境，因為對方需要的，可能只是一雙聆聽的耳朵。

2. 當別人在訴說苦況時，我們專注與關愛的眼神，就是最好的回應。

3. 同理是站在對方的位置，體會對方的心情，明白並接納對方的想法。

4. 當別人把外衣脫下，看到對方赤裸與脆弱的那面，請珍而重之對待。

5. 我們很容易將對方的苦情帶上一個「光環」，只是那光芒很多時候變成刺傷對方的利刃。

6. 別把彼此的苦難放在天秤上秤，因為苦難不是用來秤的。

7. 請有心理準備，當聽到別人在揭示內心幽暗不堪的自己，述說墮進陷阱幽谷時的不忿無助時，也會撩起咱們內心那久被埋藏的新愁舊怨。

8. 聽完別人的訴說，我們不一定全都明白，但卻可以感謝對方坦誠交付，及對我們的信任。

9. 穿上別人的鞋子感覺別人的難受是好，但請記得那到底是「別人的鞋子」。

10. 主耶穌所經歷的苦難，也唯有道成肉身住在我們中間的祂全然明白我們的困苦，而且因為愛，祂甘願從寶座上走下來，成為拯救罪人的救主，也是罪人的知心友。

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今天早上，盧雋被媽媽罵得很慘。

都是一般講過唔算數，惹媽媽生氣。最後被罰到Naugthy Corner。

返學途中，媽媽問盧雋：

「媽咪咁惡你驚唔驚？」

（輕挑地）「唔驚！仲有D鐘意添！」

「吓！點解呀？」

「因為我可以去Naughty corner睇海豚呀嘛！」

雖然惡都唔驚，但媽咪其實幾鐘意呢種樂觀態度。

臨瞓前，同Wonka講個故事。

關於鬧

關於鬧，媽媽有點堅持。

起初媽媽是有點怪自己控制不了脾氣。後來發現反正控制不了，開始安慰自己，如果沒有在家被媽媽罵，以後在外面恐怕接受不了被別人罵。

於是，先罵過，再解釋，如有罵錯不要因為媽媽的身分而害怕道歉。

不過媽媽的脾氣大概不算太壞，盧雋也不是太皮。這樣的情況也不常發生。